Week of January 13th, 2025

But what if I told you that perhaps the truth is actually the opposite? That our friends are just reflections of our own traits which are most in need of expression? Maybe we even encourage certain people’s often less than satisfactory presence in our lives because we need to learn something.

Here is a good example:

When I was about five years into my former business, I had a friend who was convinced that I should do something else with my life. While she thought my small boutique web development startup seemed like it utilized many of my skills, she always felt that ultimately my true talents (creativity, design, writing, being generally my weird self) were best expressed through graphic design, entertaining, writing or working directly with people rather than managing a team, assigning tasks and overseeing projects.

For several years we proverbially butted heads over the business I was running. I started to believe that her inconsistent but very direct rhetoric about what I should be doing with my life was far more about her own insecurities than anything she noticed in me.

However, I couldn’t shake the nagging feeling that something truly did NOT feel right for me about managing my team. I’d wake up every weekday, answer many client emails, get on Zoom conferences and then spend the rest of the time managing projects for my small group of developers, watching them gain accolades for their talents directly from the clients who I was on the phone with all morning.

After more time passed, I had to acknowledge to myself that the whole thing felt empty. Was my talent going to waste? I couldn’t identify exactly what it was about project management and team leadership that didn’t agree with me. The business was doing relatively well, though revenue was pretty stagnant.

I couldn’t stop steering the conversation with my friend towards work. I would almost encourage her to give her opinion about my business so that I could butt heads with her. I wanted to keep telling her that everything was just fine and I was doing just what I needed to be doing. In other words, I was asking for it. But why?

Let’s press fast-forward. Today, I’m in a completely different place. I’m not managing a team, I’m directly connected to my work. The people I work with are equals.

My friend turned out to be right.

Looking back on it, I subconsciously encouraged this opinion she had about my work at the time because I knew that deep down what I was doing was not fulfilling. I believe her opinion was something that I energetically allowed into my life in order to help nudge me in a better direction.

It is difficult to face our friends when they disagree with us sometimes. But it is even more difficult to face ourselves.

This Week’s Transits

The energy this week is softer and more full of positive vibes than any single week we have seen in months. The Cancer Full Moon shines its light on some harmonious solar and lunar aspects to generational planets early in the week, which is favorable for showing others that you care. It’s a great week to tell others how you feel about them, for good or for ill. If you are angry with someone, tell them now. The results of your open honesty will be worth the inner turmoil you may feel surrounding the actual anger.

This is also a very good week to get in touch with someone from your past who you’ve been considering contacting, as long as your intentions are pure.

Tuesday, January 14th is a powerful day Astrologically with the aforementioned full Moon, and your emotional and nurturing abilities will be heightened on this day to coincide with the Venus Square to Jupiter. Love and emotions will be running through the stratosphere on this fine Tuesday, but it may be challenging energy to handle for more stoic types.

Words of wisdom: Sometimes the act of writing a letter to someone you haven't spoken with in eons, or better yet, who you are angry with, can be very healing. You don’t even need to send the letter. In fact, don’t send it.